Celebrate the gifts each of you bring to the family.
Folks, this is a big one for relationship success. ❤️ It’s not easy to be parents and sometimes resentment and fighting get in the way to seeing your partner’s gifts. Sometimes when a relationship gets really stuck people start treating their partner’s gifts like a problem. The thing they once loved about their partner, now is the reason for all of their problems.
The problem with this behavior is that trickles down to the children.
They feel the disconnect and will be negatively impacted. Over time the negative moments will leave a lasting memory. It doesn’t matter if you are deeply in love with your partner or feel like they are a pain in the butt. You can full up your values tank by paying attention.
Everyone can do this simple step:
Simply put aside your judgement for one moment and ask what you would miss if your partner wasn’t there. What would your children miss?
Those things are what need to be valued. A little story for you. My husband traveled away from the family recently. I thought I’d miss him SO much. I was really stressed before he left.
I would’t feel comfortable driving around town in the ice storm that was predicted.
Walking the dogs twice a day, all me!
What would I do if I got called to a birth while he was away?
I knew that I’d have to stay up late with our teenager.
Who would give me hugs.
I could go on and on. He’s not perfect. We don’t have a dream relationship. Him leaving for a few days opened my eyes and I was able to see some of the things he does for me that I take for granted.
I started to celebrate the gifts that he brings to our family before he left. He went away for a week. Truth bomb… I ended up not missing him much. I was inspired by his traits to drive in the snow, take out the spiders, stay up past my bedtime. The kids and I had a great week! Relationships work best when each person finds value in the other. When the value tank starts to fade you have to pay attention and fill it back up!
Sending you all some positive relationship vibes today. If you want to stay with your partner each person needs to work towards that goal all the time.
Keep up the good work and thanks for reading,