You don’t have to suffer in your relationship.
I have been working with new parents for 14 years. Since starting as a birth doula and becoming a relationship doula, I have learned a lot about common problems during the postpartum period. All families encounter struggles.
They are not challenging to overcome, you just need to change how you’re thinking about them.
Here they are, and how to solve them:
People are too busy to enjoy what they have:
Learning to say no to over scheduling is hard because it means you will have free time. Free time means slowing down. When you slow down you feel.
That moves us to problem #2.
Overwhelming emotions lead to resentment:
- How you encounter your own emotions is a big deal.
- You must be nimble and able to turn off and on emotions as needed. Most people are just really good at turning them off and shoving them down.
- Postpartum is such a huge change that people run out of room for stuffing. Learning how to process emotions is key to preventing emotional overwhelm.
New parents over prioritize kids and let their relationship degrade:
When parents are prioritizing the kids’ needs every second of the day they end up suffering and creating a habit that is not sustainable for the long term.
Make sure there is time for you to be alone. And time that you can be alone with your partner. When you are alone, remember to treat yourself with kindness, as if you are your own best friend.
It’s not easy parenting in the modern age.
But, if you can tackle the problems above you will be well on your way to building belonging in your own home.
When everyone feels like they belong, they thrive!
Thanks for reading,